Busting Myths About Platonic Friendships
I have to admit that Platonic Friendships do exist. Do a search on the word “platonic” and you will come across synonyms like non-physical, non-sexual and spiritual. Now, let me take-up each of these words and look at them through a real-life microscope:
Argument 1: You are platonically good friends with her which means there hasn’t been any sexual contact between you two. Can you guarantee that it will never happen? The argument here is that the current state of being platonic doesn’t guarantee anything for the future. The fact that you two get along so well and confide in each other establishes a great degree of comfort. So, we have companionship, comfort, faith and trust in each other—aren’t these also the vital ingredients for a relationship? How can anyone possibly guarantee that this enviable blend of traits won’t make you look at the presently-platonic friendship through a couple-oriented lens later?
Argument 2: Some guys describe their platonic friendship with a lady as being spiritual. I believe this means that it transcends the normal restraints associated with a friendship. So a girl and a guy have found spiritual compatibility which essentially means that they can connect without having to express too much—one can feel the trauma or joy of the other instantly. The vibes are so strong that it seems they are carrying oppositely charged magnets in their guts. Now, look at this in a realistic and not arguments’ sake manner: if the chemistry between a guy and a girl can reach such heights of awesomeness, why would they not take the next step, i.e. beyond friendship, and enter a relationship?
Jerry & Elaine from Seinfeld ain’t Happening, So Get Real
Those who watched Jerry (Seinfeld) and Elaine would realize that what these two shared was absolutely wonderful. For the uninitiated, Jerry and Elaine are the best of friends in the sitcom called, “Seinfeld”. They are ex-lovers with a history that spans nearly a decade. They even try a friends-with-benefits kind of set-up but it seems too awkward to both of them. There are moments when they feel the urge to be with one another. They even discuss it, sitting comfortably, in Seinfeld’s sofa. The beauty of this friendship is that despite having some major differences and having been through repeated attempts, trying to rekindle their romance, Jerry & Elaine continue to be good, sorry, great friends!
So what is the problem? The only issue is that this Jerry-Elaine kind of “special friendship” is least likely to happen outside the studios of NBC. This friendship became the talking point when “Seinfeld” gained TV-viewing supremacy across the US. Their friendship had to be sustained because without this plot, the entire series would have collapsed. However, in real life, there are no pre-arranged plots and crisply-written screenplays. In the real world landscape, you either have a pleasant and formal tone with your Ex or you are out of her life and never face this paradigm. What the Jerry-Elaine equation also preaches is that being merely “good friends” is virtually impossible if the guy and gal like each other.
A Confession: Where it all goes wrong?
Evolutionary History is testament to the fact that psychologically, men and women interpret and perceive the same situation in a remarkably different manner. Why most guy-gal friendships go horribly wrongly is essentially because of Men. Yes, this confession wasn’t easy and I might have backstabbed my kind, but here is why it happens:
1. The Male Ego Just Won’t Rest
Some supposedly platonic friendships have women using men without the idiot even realizing that he is being juiced-out. I have seen so many so-called friendships where a married lady without sharing any sort of intimacy with the guy has him on a leash. He is shopping for her every week, buying her gifts and downloading apps for her. It seems that the female compliment or just being in the company of a beautiful woman is…