Having a possessive girlfriend is a man’s worst nightmare come true.
A possessive girlfriend is one who is insecure, will doubt and question you & your motives at the drop of a hat, and will not want to share you with anybody. Getting anxious about her behaviour, fearing her reactions to any given situation, and wanting to hide things from her to avoid suspicion are normal short-term reactions but not long-lasting solutions. It is advisable to nip this problem in the bud before it stifles you and kills your relationship.
5 ways to deal with a possessive girlfriend are as follows:
1. Make her feel secure
A woman who is insecure in her relationship will cause all hell to break lose sooner than later. If you want to avoid this trip to hell it is up to you to make her feel secure and at ease. Sit her down and talk to her about her insecurities. Make her believe that she has absolutely nothing to worry or feel anxious about and that you are here for her and will not cheat on her. Winning her confidence is the key here.
2. Introduce her to your female friends
Maintaining calm between your girlfriend and female friends, no matter how difficult, is extremely essential. Before any jealousy creeps in or the cat-fights begin, it is advisable you introduce them to one another. Allow them to bond and encourage the growth of a healthy camaraderie between them.
3. Explain the concept of ‘SPACE’ to her
Too much of ‘us time’ and constant companionship can break your relationship down.Spending time with yourself and having your breathing space is critical for your growth as a person as well as for the relationship. Tell her that just because you want your space does not mean you are not interested in her anymore. In fact make her understand how some ‘me time’ will do her good too and motivate her to spend time with herself, friends and family. Once she realises how this space makes her feel better, she will comprehend your need for it.
4. Don’t lie/hide
Excessive lies can kill a relationship. If you think that your behaviour will upset her and result in a fight, choose to face it than lie about it. For example: if you are going to meet a female batch-mate for coffee, don’t lie about it. Tell her that girl is just a friend who you are catching up with. This truth might anger her, but the fact that you didn’t lie will earn you her respect. Plus, she will get used to the fact that you meet your friends and that she must accept it rather than get paranoid about it.
5. Spend quality time with her
This one should come naturally to you. Spend quality time with her; make her feel wanted and shower her with your attention. Doing this will make her feel happy about the time you’ll spend together and she won’t get unnecessarily jumpy or jittery.
In case you have a possessive girlfriend, we have given you pointers on how you can deal with her. So don’t avoid the situation, face it and solve this ‘possessive problem’ for good. (Dating, MensXP.com)